Saturday, March 24, 2007

Am I wrong?

I'm actually enjoying life without a car. Howard, however, hates it. He's hitch hiking to work and back every night.

I think a car is too expensive, gas, insurance, and up keep.

He wants us to get a car, and for me to drive him to work and back everyday.

The problem is, Aidan is on an early day schedule, getting up between 6 and 8 every morning. He goes to bed about 8:30 each night. I would have to get him out of bed about 5 or 6 hours after he goes to sleep. Drive the 45 minutes or so to the Casino, and wait for Howard to be finished. Then drive home, get Aidan to bed and try to catch a couple of hours sleep before he wakes up. I'll be spending all day taking care of Aidan and catching what little sleep I can. I wouldn't have any time to work, because I would have to sleep whenever Aidan does, just to function at half normal.

Howard thinks that's fair, since I want him to go to work every day, I like having the pay check to take care of bills, and I can sleep whenever Aidan does.

I think it's crazy, and not likely to work for long.

What I want to do is wait until we can pay off the tickets that we have to pay in order to get his O.D.L. re-instated. It's only about $1486, so we should be able to take care of it relatively quickly.

Then he can get a car, and drive himself to work.

It's his choice that he works nights, he told his bosses that he wouldn't take a day schedule no matter what. It would be easier if he did, we would have so much more time together, Aidan would get to see his Dad some times, and I could drive him both ways with out any problems.

I know that walking and hitching to work and home isn't a good situation for him. I wish I could wave a magic wand and get everything taken care of. But I also need to think of myself. I promised myself that I won't let anyone walk all over me any more, not even the people I love.


Hennifer said...

I think you are right, for what it's worth. The insanity of your schedule if you took him too and from work is not good for Aidan.
And if the day shift is an option... The car would be so expensive if you were making 2 round trips a day.

Is there any possibility he could car pool with someone? You could pay them something and still get off much cheaper than the car.

Having been in this exact situation before I know how stressful it can be.

Messed up Mama said...

He does have a ride to work 2 days a week. But the guy goes home earlier than Howard does so he has to find a ride home.